Wednesday, May 15, 2013
The Blame Game
The sport of creative and strategic attempts to BLAME others for one's own moral shortcomings.
Number of Players
2-Infinity. Ages 3 and up.
Player 1... The Blamer: A person who has made a foolish choice resulting in an unwanted and unpleasant consequence.
Player 2... The Blame-ee: A person to blame.
Object of the Game
Player 1 uses strategy and finds a way to blame Player 2 for a foolish choice, thus striving to avoid any unwanted or unpleasant consequences altogether.
If Player 1 suceeds in taking no blame by placing it all on Player 2, then Player 1 WINS! If Player 1 admits wrong, does not blame Player 2, and endures the unwanted and unpleasant consequences, then Player 2 WINS!
Player 1 rolls the dice and is faced with making a choice.
Player 2, full of grace and love, instructs Player 1 as to the wise choice and warns Player 1 of the pending consequences of the foolish choice.
Player 1 ignores the instruction and does whatever it is that he wants to do, when he wants to do it, and how he wants to do it.
Player 1 suffers unwanted and unpleasant consequences and using pride, anger, manipulation, tears, lies, and even violence, Player 1 places the BLAME onto Player 2.
Player 2 attempts to comfort Player 1 while gently reminding him/her of the previous instruction and warning.
The game is over when one of the Players either takes the BLAME or successfully places the BLAME onto the other.
I LOVE games, but this isn't one of them.
Yet, I play it and so do my kids.
In fact, Grayden and I are fresh off the playing field.
Long game short...A few days ago he made the choice, against my instruction, to climb a tree at the park a second time.
Angry with me because I would not let him climb higher he struggled to get down from the few limbs he had already climbed up. In frustration, he lunged down onto a branch hanging by his arms and slipped to the ground...scraping his hands in the process.
Walking over to make sure he was alright he began to yell and throw grass at me while shouting, "You made me hurt myself. It's your fault."
His choice to disobey caused him hurt, sparked anger and embarassment, and spiraled into an ugly game of blaming. He refused to admit wrong and concluded that I was to BLAME for the many unwanted or unpleasant consequences he was facing (physical pain, guilt from disobedience, and embarassment in front of his friends).
I definitely LOST this particular playing of The Blame Game.
This is not a NEW game...It has been around for centuries beginning with Adam & Eve - Genesis 3:12-13
They both chose to disobey God's instruction to not eat from the tree of knowledge of good and evil in the garden. God, of course, calls them out and they both became players in the Blame Game.
Adam blamed Eve (and God) for his sin, "The woman you put here with me--she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it."
Likewise, Eve blamed the serpent saying, "The serpent deceived me, and I ate."
They BOTH rather pathetically stuck their fingers out and pointed to another. Neither took responsibility for their choices and neither admitted wrong.
All of us have and will sin. We have all fallen short and we will all continue to fall short.
But blaming others for our sin is heaping sin upon sin.
Jesus came to forgive and redeem us BUT unless we admit our sin & confess and repent from it ,He cannot grant us forgiveness and redemption.
1 John 1:8-10 speaks rather candidly to this issue,
"If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word has no place in our lives."
So The Blame Game gets us nowhere but further and further away from God's grace in Christ Jesus. We cannot WIN when we blame others for our own moral shortcomings.
Join me today in prayer over our children
Jesus, I pray that my children will believe that when they confess sin You are faithful to forgive and redeem them from all their moral shortcomings and foolish choices. I pray that, when faced with unwanted and unpleasant consequences of sin, they would admit wrong and humbly confess and receive forgiveness from You. I pray they would not play The Blame Game, and so deceive themselves, by placing fault on others for their own foolish choices.